An Indonesian Wedding

17 Jul

Wedding season is in full swing here in Indo! The Islamic holiday, Ramadan, is nearing. According to several sources, this is what is pushing everyone to get in their kicks before the month of fasting, sleepless nights and who knows-what-else begins…thus making July a popular time for weddings.  I’ve been to three wedding parties within the last week, including the one I just got back from a bit ago. It isn’t uncommon to be invited to wedding parties if you aren’t particularly close to the bride and groom. Oftentimes a wall of amplifiers announces to the entire community that a wedding is going on and that you should be part of the festivities. Another interesting cultural difference is that it’s not rude to eat and leave. In fact, that is the status quo: show up, say hello, eat some food and be on your way. (Fun fact from my life: A few days ago I went to a wedding party with a group of teachers from my school.  We said congrats, ate our food and were gone long before the party even started!)

For my host family, weddings are the family business. My host mother owns a salon (aka: she’ll do your hair and make-up in our living room) and my host brother-in-law is an entrepreneur of sorts. He creates the decorative sets that the bride and groom greet people from during the wedding parties.  Here is one such example:

This is what I call a "wedding set." I don't know what they really call these things.

I enjoy attending wedding parties because there is good food and it’s interesting to see some of the more traditional culture seep through in garments worn, music played and the wedding ceremony itself.  Though I’ve attended a number of parties, I’ve only seen the actual ceremony once, at a wedding held a few weeks ago.

It was fascinating to observe such a tradition. The bride processed in, flanked by her parents. She stood opposite the entrance as the groom followed suit with his parents in-tow. The two processed down a red-carpeted aisle, and they met in the middle where a series of ceremonious actions unfolded. The bride washed the groom’s feet in a bath of flower petals, circled around him, people threw rice… and so forth. I didn’t quite catch all of what was happening because I got shutter-happy with my camera. Thus here are a few photos as a result….

The bride washing the groom's feet.

Both the bride and groom kneel before both sets of parents.

The bride kneels before the her parents.

The groom kneels before his mother.

The bride and groom stand before family and friends for the first time as husband and wife.

The goings-on after the ceremony.

I’d like to share more but as fate would have it, I’m having some technical difficulties with my flickr account, internet connection and speed. So that will have to do for now. Aaaannnndddd on a final note I’d like to introduce you to my host family:

My host family and I after attending a wedding party.

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  2. Snapshots from THE Indonesian Wedding (part one) | The Personette - May 13, 2013

    […] and celebrational needs in the community. I’ve been to quite a few weddings and have even posted about it before. Though, this was a different ordeal because it was […]

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